I’ve always been able to connect with people on a deeper level than most. I can tell when someone is lying to me or evading the truth. I can sometimes read a person so well that I might tell them something about them self that they don’t want, or aren’t ready, to hear. (I probably should work on that.)
But, even if they’re a close friend or someone I’ve just known for a few weeks, I tend to know exactly what they need in their life. What they need to hear, what kind of love they need, what they’re missing. It’s just a weird instinct.
I’ve been thinking about why this is. What’s so different about me that makes me more perceptive to people’s inner thoughts and feelings? It took me a long time but I think I’m starting to understand it.
I pay attention to people. I listen to everything they say and I have some ability to apprehend whatever mental or emotional state their in. I even sometimes take it in as my own. I’ve learned to trust people’s actions more than their words and I just generally connect with someone on a more intense level than most people could if they tried.
I’ve pretty much experienced all the pain and trauma that one person can handle in one life and people can sense that. Then they open up to me. People tell me their secrets, things they’ve never told another person and I keep them.
But one thing that I’ve noticed I do, that really helps me read a person, is I pay attention to the little things. Their micro-expressions, non-verbal cues, behaviors, the subtly of their emotions. I’m good at recognizing them and catching them before they fade away. I’m good at interpreting what they mean.
I also feel like, because I’ve been through so much therapy, I have the tools to help other people. One thing that’s great about therapy is they give you the tools to manage your life and emotions on your own. I’ve taken that on and I’m using what I know to help other people.
But above all, besides my natural inclination, I think the main reason I can read people, and sometimes even know exactly what they’re thinking, is that I care. I won’t judge. I just want to help and only have their best interest at heart.
I love humans and I truly believe we’re all in this together. Life is not a competition against one another, it’s against ourselves. If there is anything I can do to ease another person’s pain, to help them in any way I can, I’ll do it. As many times as I need to.